[mk_dropcaps style="fancy-style"]W[/mk_dropcaps]hat we say does matter. I know there is that saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but your words will never hurt me.” But we all know that is a lie. We each have at least one of those painfully vivid moments seared into our memory from hurtful words spoken over us at a young age. Words spoken to us(or that we say about ourselves) shape and mold how we see ourselves. You can look to sociology studies of how powerful this is. Robert K. Merton a sociologist in 1948 wrote an article on what is called “self-fulfilling prophecy.” He defined it as: a false definition of the situation evoking a new behavior which makes the original false conception come true.
We can believe a lie so much that we will change our behaviors to prove the lie to be true. That is the power of agreement, which begins in our words. In scripture the evidence of the power of our words to establish our future can be found in a few scriptures:
[mk_blockquote style="line-style" font_family="none" text_size="16" align="center"]Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.-Proverbs 18:21
I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;-Deuteronomy 30:19
The Bible teaches us to be aware of what we speak for our words either bring life or bring death. There is no neutral ground in our language. We have a lot of filler words and today a lot of neutral words that through overuse have left us desensitized but the truth remains. What we speak woven together with time helps us establish our future.
When we look to shift from being our own worst enemy to our best asset we must check in on what we are saying. Is your confession in alignment with God’s truth? Is it just your opinion shaped by your experiences? Or are you agreeing with the lies of the enemy?
A good assessment of if your words are taking you toward God is if whatever leaves your mouth about yourself, your situation, or God can be followed with the statement "... and that is exactly how I and God want it to be." Try it:
"I am stuck and things are never going to change... and that is exactly how I and God want it to be."
"I am always going to be single and alone...and that is exactly how I and God want it to be"
"My life is always a mess and I am always behind...and that is exactly how I and God want it to be"
Let me be your best friend for a second and if you are saying any of the above about yourself, or even worse, my response to you is: "You said what?! Quit talking about my friend like that!"
I am pretty confident you now can see there are many things we say flippantly that bare no place being said. No matter what the current circumstances are, when you speak something out you begin to pave a path toward that destination. Be aware and careful what it is you are saying.
When we press into God and pray and expect Him to bless us and to answer our prayers we have to be sure our confession is speaking life over that situation and not cursing. God cannot bless what we curse, because He has given us authority here on earth to be fruitful and multiply. Therefore, what we allow to come out of our mouth helps pave the road ahead either toward or away from God’s perfect plan for us. We are partnering with Him. We have a part to play. Yes the Lord is the one in control, but we can not abdicate our responsibility to be in agreement with Him if we expect His best to come to pass in our lives.