You: The Opponent
[mk_dropcaps style="fancy-style"]N[/mk_dropcaps]ow we have stepped into the role of Visoneer for our lives beginning to take those initial steps toward our vision, it is time I warn you. The toughest opponent you will face is none other than... YOU. I am not saying you are a bad person or that you do this intentionally. But every single one of us must choose to undergo the process of transformation to become what God created. That takes grit and tenacity not physically but right there between our very own two ears. Our perceptions of our strengths, talents, gifting and abilities paired with our fears and insecurities can be some of the toughest bindings we have to break to be free to advance toward our destiny. This month we are going to address some key areas we need to tackle to stop self-sabotaging and become our best asset. Where do you begin?
The first game we must win is that of comparison. As someone who is naturally competitive and driven to accomplish, comparison happens almost as easily as breathing. It is as sticky as gum in your hair. Once wrapped up in it all you can do is cut it out to be free of it. It seems attractive at first, but quickly turns on you the more you feed it with your energy and attention.
What makes it so sticky is that we will either rate ourselves above or below those we are comparing against. When you rate others above yourself it lowers your self-regard and feeds feelings of insignificance or unworthiness. Compare yourself higher than others, and that is a breeding ground for pride. Pride is flat out insidious. You can be soaking in it and both you and those around you may be aware see how deep it runs. Pride and unworthiness alike are unnecessary restrictions we put on ourselves that slow and weigh us down in our journey. They come on our lives by one simple and powerful thing: our choices.
How do you know you are playing the comparison game?
One way you can detect if comparison is taking over your thoughts is if a majority of them are in the form of “critique.” Comparison is by nature an assessment of yourself alongside another. The problem is we make such judgments off of all the details and nuances of our own lives and partial information and assumptions of the lives others. In no way is it going to be an accurate assessment, it is one sided.
When we look to the model of Jesus we see how he never compares himself to others. Rather His mode of assessment is in alignment with the word and will of God. To Him that is ALL that matters. Paul describes the effects of comparison this way:
[mk_blockquote style="line-style" font_family="none" text_size="16" align="center"]For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise. 2 Corinthians 10:12[/mk_blockquote]
Comparison shows a lack of wisdom because you have taken your worth from where it is sourced (the Lord) and put it down in alignment with another imperfect and flawed human.
I do not know about you but I do not want to waste any energy, passion, conviction and drive I have on comparing myself to another. That person is running an entirely different race (or maybe even playing a totally different game) than I. We play a game where there are two sets of rules and objectives. After all we are each complete originals. Keeping score not only is a waste of time it is unnecessary.
If you take anything away from this message, take this: Comparison robs you of your destiny and your confidence. Cut it out and you will have hit a knock out punch to You: The Opponent. Then You: The Champion will be free to love God and others the way you were designed.